The ultimate outcome of control (at a high level) is one of: a full-body lockout; a choke; a pin to the ground or a large object; broken joints or bones; a damaging throw; or vital point attack (press or strike). To reach this level, skill in footwork, weight control, Ki development and timing are all needed, apart from good basic catching.
There are very many angles through which joints may be controlled. These should be explained by your instructor - including knowing their potential damage and weaknesses.
There should be no uncertainty about who is in control.
Some people are less susceptible to locks than others. This reduces, but does not remove the usefulness of control on them. For these people, you need to pay more attention to balance control and footwork. You can usually still send the extent of control from one joint to the next (repeatedly), but keep them unbalanced so they can't lever out.
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